I had someone recently come back into my life and suddenly want to talk to me again, and in fact BE with me again after 3 YEARS of total silence, then disappear again as fast as she’d reappeared.
We had some online thing years ago which fizzled out and then died a death because she had her partner move in with her. Now normally this doesn’t present an issue to me – I’m perfectly able to cope with talking to females as just friends. But 3 years ago she said we can’t be friends anymore “because of our complicated past”.
Well…….bit odd but okay then. Not much I can do about that, is there.
Then recently she ended up talking to me on Skype for a while and told me that her partner was stood over her while she typed what she did 3 (maybe now 4) years ago. That was all very bad and wrong, etc etc, but she expected me to be all “OHHHH!!!! Well now you put it THAT way, we must be together no matter WHAT!!!”. She seemed genuinely surprised that I didn’t quite react that way. How the fuck was I supposed to react??? You told me we can’t even be FRIENDS anymore, let alone anything else. Therefore, rather obviously, I would have thought, I severed all feelings I had in that regard. Was I supposed to psychically detect that he was stood over you making you type all of that, and hold out hope for years ‘just in case’ you had a big change of heart and decided things weren’t working out for you after all?
I don’t want anyone to think “well she’s a bitch then”. She isn’t, and this is no personal attack. She’s a very peaceful woman with a very peaceful soul. But when she turned round after finding I didn’t quite respond to her being ‘back’ in quite the way she’d assumed, she claimed I’m “not the person I thought you were in my head – and that’s on me. Thank you and goodbye”.
What the fuck. It’s a little bit grating that she’s not prepared to be friends before, during or after. I didn’t even open that message, much less reply to it.